Seeing is Understanding


The saying goes that seeing is believing.  While I think that is a very true statement,  the words could use a little modification. For the case of this argument, let’s say that seeing is understanding better.

Let me explain myself.  We, as humans,  believe in all sorts of things we can’t see with our own eyes. We believe in wind, Mars, and love. I was talking to my sister about this idea, and she said, “I mean, I believe in Africa.”

However, when we see something (and I don’t mean see it on the internet, I mean see it in person) we come to a better understanding it. Once we see that thing that we believe, we can process it and come to a fuller understanding of it.

What got me thinking about this was a good friend of mine and her boyfriend. The two of them have been in a long-distance relationship for almost three years now. Due to the distance in their relationship,  I don’t know him very well. It’s very weird for me, as a friend,  to see them together because here’s this guy I don’t know holding hands and cuddling with my friend of ten years.

That really irritated me for the longest time. It made me mad that I was having a hard time being happy for my friend.  But then I came to the realization that seeing is understanding. I believe that they love each other, but seeing it can be weird and different. Every time I see them together,  I will add a layer of understanding to it. That doesn’t mean that being around them will be any less weird or awkward, but it might mean that I’ll be more okay with it.

Maybe next time I see them together, I’ll keep this idea in mind, and it’ll be a little easier to process.